Dignity Isn’t a Countdown: When “Safety” Starts Feeling Like Control

will stay calm. He’s learned, the hard way, that life doesn’t work like that.

“I’m fine,” I said, because it was true.

Denise’s eyes did that thing they do when she thinks I’m being “difficult.” Not wrong. Not irrational. Just… inconvenient.

“I know you feel fine,” she said. “But feeling fine isn’t the same as being safe.”

There it was.

The holy word.

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