The Satellite Son and the Cane Son: When Money Can’t Carry Grief

resenting you for leaving.”

There it was—the controversy people argue about in comment sections, at holiday dinners, in whispered phone calls:

Is the child who stays obligated?
Or exploited?
Is the child who leaves free?
Or selfish?
Does sending money count as love?
Or does it count as outsourcing guilt?

There is no clean answer.

That’s why people fight about continue reading …